Self-Esteem and Body Image Playlist

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Sometimes I need a good “pick me up.”  Food can be helpful, but I find a healthier alternative is to turn to a song or songs that remind me that I am so much more than my appearance and my body and that I am so much more than my circumstances or situation.  Thus, over the years I have created a “Love Yourself” Playlist that I play to encourage myself.  I realize that so many problems in life — friendships, relationships, jobs — boil down to the fact that we don’t think we are good enough and/or we don’t realize our immeasurable worth.   But I long made a vow that I’m not going to sacrifice my self-worth and self-respect on the altar of relationships and romantic love and financial success.

I love me more.

By the time I get through this playlist, I feel like I am capable of taking over the world.   I play this while I’m working out or on my way to work or school.

These songs are about being strong and loving yourself.  We have to love ourselves if we are ever going to love others (Matt 22:39; Mark 12:31). We can’t give what we don’t have.  You have to be U.G.L.Y. — You Gotta Love Yourself.  Or, as Eve Ensler would say, “Love your tree!

The whole playlist can be found here, on Spotify, or by clicking on each video link below.

All About that Bass — Meghan Trainor

Unpretty – TLC

Miss Independent — Ne Yo

Loving Me — Faith Evans, Syleena Johnson, KeKe Wyatt, Nicci Gilbert and Montifah Carter

Beautiful U R – Deborah Cox

Absolutely Not — Deborah Cox

Phenomenal Woman — Amy Sky

Thick Girls — Terrell Carter

Big Girl (You are Beautiful) — MIKA

Freckles – Natasha Bedingfield

Everybody’s Got a Story — Amanda Marshall

Natural — Rajdulari

Beautiful — Christina Aguliera

Fighter — Christina Aguliera

Stronger — Tessanne Chin or Kelly Clarkson

People Like Us — Kelly Clarkson

Good Enough — Jazmine Sullivan

I Feel Beautiful — Fantasia

Video — India.Arie

Brown Skin — India.Arie

I Am Not My Hair — India.Arie (version with P!nk or Akon)

You Gotta Be — Des’ree

Dontchange — Musiq Soulchild

You and I — John Legend

All of Me — John Legend (but I REALLY LOVE this version with Lindsey Stirling)

Just the Way You Are — Bruno Mars

Superwoman — Alicia Keys

Crooked Smile — J. Cole

Still I Rise — Yolanda Adams

Never Give Up — Yolanda Adams

I Gotta Believe — Yolanda Adams

Anything — Yolanda Adams

The following is also a great playlist:

What are some songs that you like listening to that boost your self-esteem and make you love yourself more?

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True Confessions: I Have Cellulite and It’s Not From Having Babies

I’ve been really, really busy over the past little while (law convocation, searching for jobs, sorting out my life), hence my lack of posting. But I will reblog this, because I’ve been meaning to write a post about this.

It always bothered me when BioOil commercials would come on because it would associate stretch marks with having children. What about those of us who have never had children but have stretch marks? I’ve had stretch marks since my teenage years — years when my skin had trouble keeping up with my growing body. And that’s okay. My brother has stretch marks on his arms — despite the fact and because he’s a body builder. What about those of us who exercise but have cellulite? Sometimes we must turn the generalizations on their head. I love what Lily has written. She says it better than me. 🙂

Such Small Hands

Yesterday I found some new stretch marks -thin white lines running parallel to each other like the rungs of a ladder climbing up my outer thigh. My heart sank and my shoulders sagged involuntarily under the weight of yet another imperfection.

I’ve seen a lot of articles and videos lately about women embracing their post-baby bodies. About society learning to respect the body of a woman who has stretched herself around another human life. Who has willingly allowed her own body to be “wrecked” for the sake of another person. These articles and videos urge us to see their sagging breasts and wrinkled bellies as beautiful symbols of strength and sacrifice. I applaud that. It’s beyond time that society honored women, especially mothers, for who they are and what they do instead of making any kind of statements about how their bodies should look.

But every time I read one…

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